Love, Sex and Dhoka (Betrayal)


When this topic was first given to me, I wondered how to deal with it. The “youth” is so diverse: rarely do opinions gain the favour of the majority. Similar is the case with these topics: Love, Sex and Dhoka. Or shall we say, topic? For these terms represent nothing but the stance that the youth takes towards relationships: be it casual or serious. Also, is it right to keep specifying “youth”?  According to John Locke, one is born ‘tabula rasa’ : a blank slate. Are these behaviours not then, rather learned rather than something this youth is born with? I then come to the conclusion that these topics refers to how the youth, or rather, how this generation is reacting to the “developing” society around it.

As most other areas in life; love, sex and ‘dhoka’ are grey areas. Somewhere in the crowd is a Shakespeare, writing ballads to his love; somewhere in the crowd is a shy love, yet to be discovered, and somewhere broken hearts lie.Sad-Love-HD-Wallpapers

The notion of ‘love’ has changed over the years, over the generations. In this fast paced, ‘modern’ world, few have time for deep love. Others resort to gaining love when they can, and searching for another when it is no longer ‘working out’. Perhaps people are more in love with the idea of falling in love rather than falling in love itself. But, (there’s always a but!) on the other hand, we also have people welcoming the LGBT community and their aspects of love.

Sex, not too long ago a taboo to be spoken of, is in the list of ‘normal stuff’ for the youth. It is intriguing to note how “making love” has transformed into “having sex”. It is not only a change of words that occurs here, but also a change of ideologies. It is no longer looked upon something serious and clandestine (by most of the youth). This maybe because it’s just easier that way: uncomplicated. What really, is the point of having hidden truths and visible secrets? Whereas some individuals maintain a withdrawn response, choosing not to speak on sex, or “coitus” as Sheldon Cooper (The Big Bang Theory) calls it.

With a tumult of relationships, heartbreak is not uncommon; almost always ending with animosity. Betrayal, cheating, and often just ‘not being in love anymore’ are the most common reasons. It is worst when this happens between good friends. Gone is the relationship, and so is the friendship. Some get over it soon and remember the past as just ‘good times’. Whether this attitude is good or bad, we cannot judge. But what we can infer is that somehow having been through so much, the youth tends to be emotionally stronger. Having been through so much, the youth tends to be more open-minded, for as having learnt from their own experience, there is always room for change. Having been through so much, the youth also tends to be more philosophical.

As my friend once remarked, “Love, sex and dhoka has almost become as addictive and influencing as LSD”.  Love, sex and ‘dhoka’, then remain what they have always been: both positive and negative influencing factors in an individual’s life.

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