What if..? Would it..? Would I..? IF? Could you deal with these questions in a constant turmoil in your mind? Could you deal with the notion that there was an opportunity which would have placed you in a better position, a happier situation?
You could be halfway through life; content with what you’re doing. Because you know. You know that what you’re doing is something you’re best at. Because you failed at other things. This is where failure becomes easier to deal with than regret. You’ve tried other things, failed at it, but took a lesson from it.
In fact, sometimes, we tend to be unnecessarily scared of doing some things; simple things like trying karaoke, pottery among many others; because we are afraid of being ridiculed? I’m not talking about life-altering-do-or-die decisions here. The smaller ones, the ones that truly make up our life. Maybe a haircut you wanted to try but afraid you wouldn’t be able to pull it off? Refusing to go out with your friends because you had a minor disagreement just a few hours back? Don’t. you’ll regret it. Wanted to try a new course: painting, dancing, anything? Go ahead! You might fail at the course, but you’ll never regret you ever did it. You’ll never look back and wonder if you missed out on discovering your passion just because you were afraid of failure. Failure is much easier to deal with than regret. The simple reason is that even though you failed, you took conscious decisions; the decisions were your own and you feared nothing. Regret happens when you were indecisive. When a part of you wanted to do something and the other part was afraid of failing.
Failure becomes a part of your past. Regret becomes a part of your imagination; the would be’s and the what if’s. failure creates a healable wound. Regret leaves no wound; hence making it difficult to heal. It will be a shadow, eating away at your peace till you start doubting every decision of yours.
The most powerful regrets that one comes across are those of children not telling their parents they love them; then regretting that when by the deathbed. Others are of career choices. But I still stand by what I said earlier; maybe these decisions are tougher and grey areas, but it’s the smaller ones that truly build up our failures, regrets and our achievements (or rather; moments of happiness)
So, what would be the verdict? Is regret more painful than failure?
Take a chance, take a risk, a leap of faith, and try what you want to. Failures will be covered up by the many achievements that you are capable of, but nothing can bury the regrets that you feel.