How often, in your college, school, workplace or anywhere else, have you come across people trying to shout off one’s mouth or force their opinion onto you or are offended if you correct them or blabber out all about themselves the whole time they are talking to you? Or someone who feels that it is totally justified to do whatever it takes to achieve one’s goals, elbowing out any humility that might lead one to ask whether it was right to harm people for one’s goals. It is not prodigious nowadays to be surrounded by such arrogant people. What actually causes them to behave this way?
Society’s concept of ego has often been recognition of arrogant and bombastic behaviour. Ego is a defence mechanism-there to spare us pain, save us from embarrassment and jump into action upon the mere whiff of emotional discomfort.
All this to guard the helpless child within from reliving the wounds that made ego start exercising its might in the first place. Insecurities and inferiority complex lead to this aberrant behaviour to a great extent. People are afraid that they might not be noticed or their presence might not be acknowledged as a consequence of which they tend to become high and mighty, or rather begin thinking that way, not caring how they might end up hurting others.
Our ego is part of our personality that loves manufacturing ‘less than’ experiences. Our ego feeds on fear, doubt and pain. The more we attach ourselves to our ego thoughts, the further we move away from our soul truth. The ego is not who you really are. It is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control and it is sustained by power because it leaves in fear.
“When you allow your ego to control your thoughts, everything you believe becomes an illusion.”
Beliefs have seemed to changed. Each one of us, at some point of time, might have done evil, in some or the other way, to assert to the world that we exist, that we should be paid to attention to, not at all taking into consideration what the consequences for the others might be. Today, to rise above all, what people tend to do is bringing down everyone above them by unethical means instead of rising on their own.
What needs to be understood is that ego is not our true self. It is the bully that needs to convince himself he is in charge. It is the gossip who feels better about himself by spreading rumours, the manipulator who twists words to create his own reality. Call it whatever you like, it doesn’t matter! Too much ego will kill your talent, leaving you with absolutely nothing. To have self-respect is to have neither too high nor too low an opinion of oneself. It is to value one’s integrity, to be capable of shame if one fails to live up to one’s own opinion of what one should do and how one should be. Self-respect is the foundation of respect for others.
Remember, a bad day for your ego is a great day for your soul. Be your true self.